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Debating paternity leave? Here's why you should take it 👈️ 

If you’re debating whether to take a longer paternity leave when the new one arrives, here’s a solid reason to go for it:

The length of your paternity leave could actually shape your entire co-parenting dynamic

A recent study from Ohio State University found that when dads took more time off after their baby was born, moms were less likely to block or discourage their involvement in child care.

In other words, longer leave signals to your partner that you’re fully in the game, not just a backup player.

The maternal gatekeeping effect

Moms (often subconsciously) set the standard for what “good parenting” looks like. This can mean encouraging dads to take part (gateopening) or being a little too critical (gateclosing). 

The study found that longer paternity leave reduced gateclosing behaviours, meaning moms were less likely to nitpick or limit a dad’s parenting efforts. Interestingly, it didn’t necessarily mean moms were pushing for more dad involvement, but they weren’t stopping it either.

What this means for you as a new dad

Longer leave can help you:

✅ Build confidence in your parenting skills early on

✅ Establish yourself as an equal caregiver from the start

✅ Reduce the likelihood of feeling sidelined or micromanaged

How to use this insight

• Take as much paternity leave as you can : If your workplace offers extended leave, take it. Even if it's unpaid, consider if you can swing it financially for a smoother long-term co-parenting setup.

• Take the lead, don’t wait to be invited : Don’t rely on your partner to “let” you be involved. Take initiative with diaper changes, feeding (if possible), or sleep routines. The more you do, the more natural it becomes.

• Communicate that you’re in it for the long haul : Let your partner know this isn’t just “helping out.” The goal is to be a fully involved parent, not an assistant.

Bottom line? Taking more time off can set the tone for years of equal parenting. The aim here is to solidify your role as a parent from day one.

Read the full report here 👈

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That’s about it for now, have a great week!

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